It could be you aren't gay, but just attracted to this one male person. This sort of thing happens. No matter what you decide to, if you in any way pursue this, make sure that he knows that you aren't sure of your feelings. Don't "I love you too" or anything like that until you are damned sure. What If Your Friend Is Gay and Likes You?
If you’re straight and your friend has feelings for you, it can be an awkward situation. The key is to handle it with kindness and respect. How to Respond: If you don’t feel the same way, be honest but gentle: “I really appreciate you telling me this, and I care about our friendship. Falling for a straight friend is always hard.
This gets much worse when they're so close to you.
In my experience, since it's usually impossible to make the crush/infatuation go away, the best thing is to pour your love into being a good friend. First let's start simple with signs of a normal crush: 1. Trying to Catch Glimpses. If you both go to the same school/university or work in the same workplace and you catch him occasionally trying to catch glimpses, then this might be a sign that he has at least a teeny bit crush on you.
That said, he really hit you with two separate but related messages: (1) "I'm gay, I'm vulnerable, and as someone who cares about me, I want you to know who I am and support me".
-- this is the classic coming out sequence, and bang, you now have a gay best friend. Donate to keep us straight You feed his ego and do what he wants. You are not out to him - which means you are fundamentally dishonest about who you like. West, R. I told him, at a time when the choice was simply ridiculous and a no-brainer, that he had to choose between me and his wife.
Win-win situation either way. Thank you all for the helpful replies and perspectives. I'm thinking you're in denial about just exactly how deep your heart is in this thing, truth be told. Thank you for your perspective and guidance! Thank you for this. In short, he likes that he has you enthralled, but he does not share your capacity for emotion.
You accepted it!! He did a great job of setting you up - especially letting you know he'll physically abuse you after you "make up" with him. You know it's unhealthy, and that would be sufficient for me. Nonetheless, whether or not you choose gay act on your feelings is your own personal choice. Just tell him you're bi, see where that leads.
I loved this guy. If you think that you can benefit from professional support on this issue you can reach out here. Perhaps your friend is questioning their sexual orientation and would be open to the idea of exploring dating someone of the same gender. A third scenario could be one where you express your attraction towards your friend and it makes your friendship with them become awkward and uncomfortable.
I am not much in agreement with the why saying he is simply a psycho controlling abusive friend. Please, just take care of yourself. In fact, please take precautions before you start to pull away from him. Several years ago his best friend came out as gay, which of course is perfectly fine. Edgy can be funny. Let me see here…hmmm…go to a restaurant that includes you, or go to the restaurant with a guy who has no issue with interfering with your relationship without you?
In response to your last followup, this guy sounds like a psycho. The content on Tiny Buddha is designed to support, not replace, medical or psychiatric treatment.
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